You can't handle the truth!

Everyone knows that line. "You can't handle the truth!!" Its Jack Nicholson yelling at Tom Cruise. This was pre-freaky Tom Cruise.

Anyways, thats whats on my mind today...no....not jumping up and down on my or Oprah's couch proclaiming my love for Guliano...or Katie. Hahhaha. On my couch I'd probably slip on a hidden pencil crayon and fall off the couch and lay there yelling "I've fallen and I can't get up" for hours before anyone even noticed. *rolls eyes*

Its the truth about Staying at home full time. If you don't stay at home....your preconcieved notions of what goes on is totally off. Well...probably anyways.

I'll admit....even I have these horrible stereo-type images of a stay-at-home-mom...and I am one!!

Tell me if I'm wrong...but most people think one of these things:
-SAHMs are uneducated & totally dependant on thier husbands.
-SAHMs have it easy, they just play all day long & watch TV.
-SAHMs have never left the 50's.

The truth is...is that it is REALLY hard. You give up a lot when you stay home full time. And you also feel like you can't complain because...people say: you could leave the home & go to work....but....why do people who have an actual paying job get to complain..why don't people tell them: well...why not quit work and go stay at home with your kids?

One of the things you give up is Alone Time. If you work in an office and you need some downtime, you can close your office door and have a minute or two alone. Not at home. If you close ANY door, your lil boss will be there within seconds crying and/or banging on the door. Have you ever tried to get yourself together with that going on? Same goes with bathroom time. Anyother work environment, you can go to the bathroom in peace. But at home....its hard to try to try to use the bathroom with someone crying outside the door, or...crying at your feet or trying to sit on your lap. There is no such thing as Alone Time when you are a SAHM. We've heard of it.....but we think its an urban legend.

There's also the Sense of Accomplishment. Its hard to feel productive when you stay at home. You clean up, and 10 seconds later it looks the same. There are days when 5pm comes rolling around and you still have yet to find 10 minutes to jump in the shower...not to mention thinking about what to make for supper...all the while, the lil boss has dumped out the cat food...for the 10th time that day. When your husband comes home and tells you about his meetings all day & how things are really moving along on his side-project....then he asks you: What did you do today? It feels really....lame to say: Well.....I played Polly-Pockets for an hour this morning and this afternoon I discussed 'Growing up in the 80's' with someone from PEI in a parent-chat-forum....I also picked play-dough out of the cats hair again during lunch. You don't quite feel like you are doing anything productive.

There's also no such thing as "Sick Leave" or "Earned Day Off". If you are sick, no one cares. Doesn't matter how sick you are.....you still have to get up, get kids off to school, take care of the ones at home, clean up, cook lunch, do laundry, play with the lil bosses....all the while having stomach flu...coming at you from both ends. You're lucky if you get a bless you when you sneeze. Plus all the good OTC medicines make you drowsy...so you pretty much have to suck it up. As for EDO's.....no one cares if your job is 24/7...365 days of the year. No one is keeping track and giving you an earned day off. Your earned day off is when your kids get invited for a play-date for an hour, and you are not required to come help supervise they playdate.

Gone too is Adult Time. I mean real adult time. In the office, you get adult time all day long. You converse with other adults, you talk about work related subjects, you go for coffee and get to drink a hot coffee uninterupted...you get to talk about adult topics. When you are at home and your main company is a 3 yr old.....your conversation skills tend to revolve around the same topics. You start to forget how to converse with other adutls....you start talking in statements....you become the statement talker. Just like your 3yr old. Only...you are 32. And just try to find another adult outside of the playground who can talk & laugh for an hour about Dora the Explorer....and forget about world political events...the hot topic of the day is: What do you think about CBC kids removing all the other hosts and only having Patty & Sid????

Anyways, thats just some of the truths of SAHMs.....